Why Change Is Good For Healthy Relationships

By Mike Foster

Take one minute to think of all the people you care about. Why do you care about them? Chances are it’s because they have walked with you through something hard. They’ve brought you an ice cream cone when you were down. They've shared with you their wisdom when you were lost. When the world was caving in they were solid ground and you love them for it.

Take another minute to think if nothing ever changed for you. Nothing bad ever happened.  Or good really.  Life just stayed the same. Would you have ever had the opportunity to care about those people?  No. You wouldn’t have. Because change creates community.

Most people I talk to don’t thrive in change. I get that. Change is uncomfortable and hard. But every bond we’ve ever had with someone was caused by change. So instead of labeling it as a negative experience, we need to be thankful for it. Here are three reasons why.

1. Change Forces Communication A spouse, friend, sibling, or employee.  We’ve all experienced change and had to ask someone for their help or opinion. This communication would have never occurred if some things wouldn’t have shifted. As you reach out to people for help, realize the next person who you call may be your new best friend or mentor.

2. Change is necessary for growth. If you put a fish in a tank, it will only grow as big as it’s boundaries will let it.  For a bigger fish, you need a bigger tank.  If you want to see growth in your life, you’re going to have to experience change too.  You’ll have to be thrown in a new environment from time to time.

3. Readjustment causes reevaluation. Change creates mile markers in your life.  You look back on that year in college or your first baby and you remember what you were like. And how you’re different now.  We need these pivotal moments in our lives to know who we were, who we are, and who we want to be.

The need for one another is not a sign of weakness because there truly is strength in numbers. So share the surprises that have come along with this new year with someone you trust. Let their fresh outlook grow your perspective.  And let that inspire you to stop resisting the change and embrace the good that can come with a shift in seasons.

Mike Foster is the founder of People of the Second Chance and the author of Freeway: A Not So Perfect Guide To Freedom. He lives in San Diego with his family and fluffy dog.

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