FORGIVE AND BE FREE
By Mohan Karulkar:
I once had two good friends, a guy and a girl. I liked the girl, but she liked him. You can guess what happened next. It wasn"t pretty.
I didn"t speak to either of them for years. There were times that I thought of reconnecting -- of forgiving -- but I didn"t. Bitterness was just too easy.
Why? Because I didn"t know what would happen next.
Would I have to be friends with them again?
Would I even want to?
Would they be angry with me?
Would I open up old wounds?
I just didn"t slot machine know, and fear kept me silent.
That fear keeps a lot of us silent, doesn"t it? Bitterness, that slow poison drink, becomes almost comforting in the way it maintains the status-quo. Forgiveness, on the other hand, seems a terrifying unknown. What will it feel like not to hate? And how deep will my forgiveness need to go?
The truth is, after years of stalling, I actually did reach out to my former friends. I forgave, and to be honest, not a whole lot happened. We talked, we drifted away, and that was it.
The bitterness, though, faded away too. I stopped having random memories of our friendship and fight. I stopped wondering if things could have turned out differently. I moved on with my life.
Forgiveness, that great unknown, turned out to be freedom.
I know a lot of people nursing that same poison drink this very second. Heck, I kind of know an entire city doing it. And man, it breaks my heart. Bitterness is easy, but it"s also a prison. Forgiveness is scary, like tearing off an old bandage, but there"s freedom in it.
Today, put down the poison drink; choose forgiveness, and be free.
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