BELONGINGNESS AND TED HAGGARD

ted and gayle haggard potsc Posted by Mike Foster:

Psychologist Abraham Maslow defined "belongingness" as the most important need after safety on his hierarchy of needs.

Our deep desire to be included and wanted is core to who we are.

So as I thought about some of the pointed criticism that Ted and Gayle Haggard received this week about starting St. James Church like...

1. The questioning of Ted's "real" sexuality...

2. Calling Ted and Gayle dishonest...

3. The "concern" that they don't maintain high enough Christian leadership standards to minister to people...

4. Critiquing the fact that they had a press conference...

With all of this, we failed to express belongingness.

Instead of us helping Ted and Gayle feel included, I'm afraid we have sadly added to their loneliness, isolation, and separation....again.

Instead of love...we chose fear and skepticism.

Instead of helping them write a new story, we contributed obnoxious comments on blogs.

Instead of the benefit of the doubt, we highlighted what was wrong and reminded them of their past.

And for that I am disheartened...embarrassed...and determined to do something to change it.

Mike Foster