3 Things We Can All Learn From The Process of Recovery
Earlier this week Joy shared a blog for those who have or are battling with addiction that are looking for a second chance. Whether you’ve struggled with addictive behavior or not, I want to follow up with 3 things we can all learn from the process of recovery.
1. Call yourself out, don’t keep it in. We have a tendency to bury our problems with as much distraction as we can find. Cell phones, alcohol, sex, Pinterest. Whatever it is, we all have a go-to that will numb our pain or at least hide it long enough for us to forget about it. Those in the recovery process are encouraged to call themselves out on their problems so that they can be fixed. Instead of burying ourselves under distraction, we should be kicking off the dirt and expose the issue. The dark spots in our lives don’t stand a chance in the light.
2. Have good outward standards and better inward boundaries. If you saw someone cough into their hand, chances are you wouldn’t walk up to them and say ‘Hi! Can I shake your hand?” No. You’d be praying to God that they wash their hands before they infect the whole world. As much as we try to avoid sick people, it's funny that we seek to share our emotional and physical issues with others who have their own cancerous problems. We find someone who is just as broken down as we are so that we can purge our shame and find some relief in the fact that they're at rock bottom too. To overcome addiction, people are given support and accountability from emotionally healthy people. To overcome anything, it's better to speak with someone who isn't in the pit with you so that they can pull you out. That person may not tell you what you want to hear but that’s probably more of what you need to heal.
3. Two is better than one. “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor; If either of them falls down, one can help the other up (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).” I don’t know about you, but whether I’ve tripped coming down a flight of stairs or I’m mentally stumbling over a choice I’ve made, it sounds like a much better setup to have someone there to catch me. Recovery culture believes that we can’t do this thing called life alone. We weren’t meant to. If you’re broken you can’t fix yourself. Let others help you pick up the pieces to make you whole again.
You don’t have to be in an AA meeting or a recovery group to need restoration. No matter your circumstance, you simply have to realize you something is weighing you down and can’t find freedom alone. Expose your problems, share them with someone healthy enough to point you in the direction of healing, and find a friend to walk with you through the process. Healing and hope are found when we help one another.
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